Reasons why you should stop tearing down your husband

It is every woman's dream to get married to her heart rob or that man that brings out the best in her. There is however no such thing 'AS A PERFECT MARRIAGE'! The days of courtship is totally different from actually living together as husband and wife. Many women tend to grumble that their husbands are not as fun to be with compared to when they were courting and so tear down their husbands at every slightest provocation. It's always easy to find the negative about your husband, but focusing on his good attributes is necessary for a healthy and happy marriage. 1.Speaking negatively invites more negativity. It like pouring petrol into fire, it leads to more animosity and bad blood. 2. Instead, try speaking about positive traits or do not talk at all to avoid saying hurtful words. Things will turn out fine if you appreciate the good more than complaining about the bad. I read a doctors prescription to a woman who complained that her husband had temper issues, the doctor advised that she sips a cup of water and hold it in her mouth any time her husband is upset and many weeks down the line she called to inform the doctor that his prescription was working like magic! She wanted to know how holding water in the mouth can keep her husband down..... i bet your guess is as good as mine. 3. Whether you are negative to his face or behind his back, hurtful words cause more damage than repairs. It is counter productive to continue rehashing past faults... Let by gone be by gone, move on and make the best of each day as we all have just one life to live. Way forward: 1. Try building him up as often as possible by complimenting the things he does, thank him for providing for the family, tell him you love him, tell him he is a great dad and thank him when he compliments you too. 2. Marriage takes team work and being on the same side. If you are constantly working against each other your team which is your marriage would fall apart. No sportsman will record any victory if he/she does not work in unity of purpose with team mates. 3. Work together: good and effective communication, bonding as a couple and building each other up are very necessary for a healthy marriage. Working together for solutions is a lot easier when you speak with respect and love to your husband. kindness, love and respect can go a long way in improving behaviour and learning to be a term. Avoid tearing down your husband. Find the wonderful things about him that you that you fell in love with and focus on those. This world will be more peaceful with happier marriages, relationships and homes. Yours truly, Ezinne Adelaja.