Every child is unique

A lovely day to you mummy's and mummy's to be. Today the world celebrate the girl child. In most parts of the world especially Africa the girl child is often second rated compared to the boy child who are considered more special because they retain the family name even after marriage. Today, I like us to remember that every child boy or girl are unique in their own right. God created us in his image and likeness. He said we are wonderfully and fearfully made. He did not say one Sex was inferior to the other! The world must stop sex discrimination and embrace the uniqueness in every one. The girl child and boy child have a role to play in making the world a better place for us to live in... show them love, stop being biased, stop segregating, stop favoritism... #everychildisunque in his or her own way!

Reasons why you should stop tearing down your husband

It is every woman's dream to get married to her heart rob or that man that brings out the best in her. There is however no such thing 'AS A PERFECT MARRIAGE'! The days of courtship is totally different from actually living together as husband and wife. Many women tend to grumble that their husbands are not as fun to be with compared to when they were courting and so tear down their husbands at every slightest provocation. It's always easy to find the negative about your husband, but focusing on his good attributes is necessary for a healthy and happy marriage. 1.Speaking negatively invites more negativity. It like pouring petrol into fire, it leads to more animosity and bad blood. 2. Instead, try speaking about positive traits or do not talk at all to avoid saying hurtful words. Things will turn out fine if you appreciate the good more than complaining about the bad. I read a doctors prescription to a woman who complained that her husband had temper issues, the doctor advised that she sips a cup of water and hold it in her mouth any time her husband is upset and many weeks down the line she called to inform the doctor that his prescription was working like magic! She wanted to know how holding water in the mouth can keep her husband down..... i bet your guess is as good as mine. 3. Whether you are negative to his face or behind his back, hurtful words cause more damage than repairs. It is counter productive to continue rehashing past faults... Let by gone be by gone, move on and make the best of each day as we all have just one life to live. Way forward: 1. Try building him up as often as possible by complimenting the things he does, thank him for providing for the family, tell him you love him, tell him he is a great dad and thank him when he compliments you too. 2. Marriage takes team work and being on the same side. If you are constantly working against each other your team which is your marriage would fall apart. No sportsman will record any victory if he/she does not work in unity of purpose with team mates. 3. Work together: good and effective communication, bonding as a couple and building each other up are very necessary for a healthy marriage. Working together for solutions is a lot easier when you speak with respect and love to your husband. kindness, love and respect can go a long way in improving behaviour and learning to be a term. Avoid tearing down your husband. Find the wonderful things about him that you that you fell in love with and focus on those. This world will be more peaceful with happier marriages, relationships and homes. Yours truly, Ezinne Adelaja.

What to do when your spouse won't talk!

Couple Arguing, Disagreements, disappointments and arguments can lead to times when you just want to be in separate rooms. Seems so much easier to not even look at each other, right? Well, with communication being one of the vital keys to a successful marriage, that can’t last for long. So, if you have a spouse that doesn’t want to talk or you may be having a hard time voicing your concerns because you are just too upset, it is very important to find a way to communicate. Don’t know what to do? Here are some very successful ways to get the communication going again in your marriage. Pick one, pick two, or go with them all…..but, you will be talking again after you try these! 1. Type an Email- There have been times we also couldn’t even get a word out to each other, or could bare to even look at each other because we were so upset. But, what email does is to re-open the line of communication so that at least things can start to work through. This is also a way for both spouses to say what is on their mind in a quiet way (without the sound of yelling, mumbling, or grunts of frustrations). Emailing is also a way to type out what your thinking really fast, then go back and edit those “not so nice” words before you hit the send button. Once the line of communication is back open, email back and forth until you both are ready to schedule a time to talk about it. 2. Send a Text- Hey! This is 2015 right? We all have phones and use them religiously, so why not use what you already have? If you have something on your mind to say to your spouse and just can’t get it out to their face, a simple text could help. Remember, keep your texts respectful. You may be upset or remorseful, but voice yourself with class and dignity. Words can take seconds to say (or text), and years to heal. 3. Write a Letter- This is our absolute favorite! We have done this multiple times, through good and bad times, and it works. There is something about putting pencil to paper. It is the most personal touch you can do to re-opening the line of communication with each other. Take a piece of paper, sit in a quiet place and really think about what is bothering you or how to say your apologies. Don’t only think about your perspective, but think about the situation from the spouse’s perspective also (this creates a better letter that reflects change and maturity). Again, be wise and be respectful while writing. We want to re-open communication, not shut it back down. After you’re finished, write at the end that they can write a letter back or if they are ready, schedule a time to talk. Leave it where they can find it without you around. 4. Leave a Voicemail- A spouse not answering the phone can be so aggravating, right? Wait. Breathe. Don’t let it get the best of you, you get the best of it. Leave a voicemail. But before you do, be sure you are NOT “on edge” and extremely upset. Settle down a little first, before making this call again. If you are calling to apologize…..be sympathetic, sincere and sensitive to your spouse’s feelings. This is not always effective, but your marriage is always worth a try. 5. Post-It Notes- Quick and easy! Little notes left around the house can be effective and also romantic. “I’m Sorry for …………” or “I won’t do that again because I see how much it hurt you”……or even “You mean so much more……”, can be small ways to open up communication while adding a little love. Leave them posted on mirrors, refrigerators, closet doors, steering wheels…anywhere you know they will be found. Be creative, but also seriously considering the feelings of your spouse. 6. Give a Gift- Not always encouraged, but if this is your spouse’s love language, it could possibly work. Flowers or fruit baskets delivered to their job, or a small heart shaped pendant. Either way, gifts are always eye-catchy or most of the time accepted. Attach a small note to your gift to encourage a talk so that you can start to end any disagreement or disappointments. 7. Involve your older children - tell them you have made your spouse anger and you need them to help tell your spouse that you are very sorry. No spouse will turn the other cheek at their children's plead to make peace between daddy and mummy. Your marriage is worth every attempt to successful communication with your spouse. Let us know which way works or has worked for you! Best wishes, Ezinne Adelaja.

You can't afford to get it wrong... don't wait for your child to become a victim before you lay the cards on the table.

Here are a list of things you need to teach your Children at early age:→ 1:▶ Warn your Girl/boy Child Never to sit on anyone's laps no matter the situation including uncles. 2:▶ Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself. 3:▶ Never allow any adult refer to your child as 'my wife' or 'my husband'. 4:▶ Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves. 5:▶ Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult. 6:▶ Once a very child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child. 7:▶ Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don't, the society will teach them the wrong values. 8:▶ It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves. 9:▶ Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often. 10:▶ Teach your 3 year old's how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that includes you (remember charity begins from home and with you). 11:▶ Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families). 12:▶ Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd. 13:▶ Once your child complains about a particular person, don't keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them. Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be. Please forward to all relatives and friends who either have children or would. All the best as we give guidance. I remain yours truly, Ezinne Adelaja.

Heart to Heart Matters

Good day wonderful mummy's, You are all welcome to another segment of my blog titled heart to heart matters. I'm especially thankful to God for the gift of life and parenting. I see my children unfolding their uniqueness and potentials daily and I marvel at the wonderful work of God in my care. There is no utter of doubt that parenting isn't child's play but when we consider all the self discovery that occurs after the much dreaded nine months of pregnancy, the unspeakable joy that envelopes you the moment you bring forth, when you hear the tiny winy cry, feel the grabbing of your finger, see the smile on their face while they suck or sleep, then you see them sit, crawl, grab more, stand, walk, blab, talk, shatter, tap you, report, complain, run around and do all those other activities that children love to do so well and more!  Yes oh, a whole lot of transformation/ phase in life occurs and many a times faster than light if I may say.  As they grow, it gets to the stage where they begin to ask so many questions and it beats me when they ask question you dread answering not for lack of having the right answer but because you assume your children are to young to understand the answer you may have. My dear parents, believe me when I say it's always better you answer their questions no matter how silly it may sound than to have them ask your house help, driver or teachers stuff they should learn from you. You ought to encourage your children to feel free around you and you feel free around them too. Being firm is no excuse to be uptight and unapproachable. Let your children see you as their confidant and friend. The way you lay your bed is how you lie on it is a popular saying and as it concerns our relationship with our children, I believe they need us now as much as we will need them in future. Establish a bond that will stand the test of time, create family fun memoirs, traditions and values. Parenting is lots of fun and responsibilities, it's God's gift to you without sorrow... don't spoil what God meant for good by pushing your children away from you all in the name of being busy, this action may back fire! I'm certain many of you will reconsider some of your actions and reactions and do what is right in God's sight and in your children's life for a happier future so help us God.  Till another edition of Heart to Heart matters, I remain yours truly,  Ezinne Adelaja.

TRADING PLACES!

God is really awesome!

Mothers, please what do you see in your child/ children that puts a smile on your face and you just have the push from within to keep giving them your all? My girls are simply amazing though they could be a handful but their readiness to rub my feet when I'm tried from standing for so long, helping willingly with chores and most importantly telling me how much they love me melts my heart.... I can't trade my Motherhood .... Can you?

WISDOM FOR WIVES

As a Wife, Your BEAUTY attracts your husband, but your WISDOM will continue to keep him! Your ELEGANCE catches his ATTENTION, but your INTELLIGENCE convinces him! NAGGING irritates your husband, but your "Constructive Silence" weakens him! Remember that the "boyish" character in your husband comes out occasionally, But your ability to always handle it, is a sign that you are a MATURED WIFE! Every man has "Secret Struggles and Pains, including your husband, if you should ever find them out from him, Please exhibit the greatest maturity by asking the Originator of your marriage, (God) to help you with USEFUL IDEAS, that you will suggest to him (your husband)! In the long-run, your WORDS matters to your husband than your "LOOKS"! So always invest the RIGHT WORDS! Earn your husband's respect and he will consider you as the yard-stick for all his actions! Learn to mould your husband's moods, and he will naturally give you his "FUTURE" as he recalls your maturity in the past issues! Note that, WOMEN are everywhere, but REAL WIVES are scarce, let the QUEEN in you come alive, and your husband will always hold you in a very HIGH ESTEEM! Please don't be selfish, forward this to every wife you know, so that we will together make the "BEST MARRIAGES" In our society. Enjoy every day of your marriage..... We care, Ezinne Adelaja.

Ways to reduce Sibling Rivalry

Sibling rivalry / fighting/ not being able to stand each other dates many years back. Meanness to siblings or any one is not a happy/ healthy habit. I recall my immediate younger sister (of blessed memory) and I were like cat and mouse growing up, it was not a pleasant sight to behold. God gave my father the wisdom to send us to SU summer camp where we learnt a lot from the word of God and that experience changed our attitude towards each other and helped us maintain a good sisterly friendship. Through years of experience I have witnessed that children will respond to what ever their parents think is important, things they place highest value on e.g some family believe in prayers, some attaining good grades, being respectful, some combine all these n more as their core family value system and it helps to direct the path of their children. As for me, the under listed has helped me with my girls: 1. I treat each of them fairly. Give reasons for differential treatment to other siblings e.g a baby needs more care n attention to older siblings, sick/ physically weak son or daughter needs more attention e.t.c. 2. Keep them as closely knit as possible i.e make them eat from same plate, drink from same cup, share bed, share playing stuff, look out for each other, read together, do homework together and cultivate the habit of telling you just 5 good things about themselves daily. 3. Teach them to respect each other, hugging and saying I love you to themselves ,speaking gently and sensible to each other and use the 5 magic words ( please, excuse me, sorry, thank you and pardon me) accordingly. 4. As a parent don't take sides when correcting them, it is only fair each offender is punished appropriately. 5. Do not allow teasing, name calling, hissing, malice or rude behavior towards themselves. 6. The younger ones must respect the older ones and older ones must not bully their younger ones... mutual respect comes to play here! Give them age appropriate responsibilities and let the eldest be your deputy in enduring everyone follows through on assigned task. 7. Teach them the importance of brotherly and sisterly love and unity and from a tender age let them know that God put each of them in the same family to compliment each other. 8. Teach them to pray together and pray for each other. 9.Affirm your love for all of them by spending quality time together ( mother and or father with all her/ his / their children and not some of them). Understand their individual uniqueness and praise their achieves. 10. Try to do away with the act of favoritism, your children know when one is the favorite and could use that against you in future. Never use one child's weakness to compare him or her to the other sibling negatively. I pray our children will be best of friends, love each other, learn to confide in themselves, grow to own companies and work in unison. Things will turn around for good for our children, it is well with them in Jesus name amen. Yours truly,

Ezinne Adelaja

Freshness in sliced fruits.....

Fruit is like nature’s candy. It’s fresh, juicy, and can always satisfy your sweet tooth. Fruits can be aďded to breakfast, lunch and dinner, or on it’s own as a snack or dessert, it doesn’t get much easier than grabbing your favorite piece of fruit to fill your tummy while getting also getting in a ton of nutrients and vitamins. Although people of every age enjoy a nice fresh piece of fruit, some people can be a little bit fussier than others when it comes to the fruit they choose to eat. You can always find a fruit hack, like the one that turns an apple into a delicious caramel bowl, sure to entice even the pickiest of eaters, but when it comes to packing lunches or just having something handy when you’re on the go, you usually can’ go wrong with a crisp, ripe apple. While parents do their best to pack healthy and easy to eat lunches for their kids to take to school, the fresh fruits and veggies they chop up and throw in may not always look so fresh after sitting in a lunch box inside of a cubby for hours before lunch time. But not to worry! You can still send you kid off to school with the nutritious foods you want them to eat, and with the help of a single rubber band, they will never toss out a brown apple again! So when next you cut up an apple, hold it together with the aid of a rubber band to maintain the freshness and avoid discoloring. If you found this information helpful don't keep it to yourself, many more parents could do with the knowledge... please SHARE!

Why do some children bed wet and how can we help them stop bed wetting?

Bed wetting isn't a former of sickness or cause as some people say.

Medical science say it is often hereditary as either the child's parent or close relative wet their bed as a child.

Children who bed wet need not to be stigmatized or labeled so as not to weigh them down emotional or psychological.

Often times children who are often moody or bullies are that way cause they try to hid behind their bed wet 'problems'.

There are many ways parents have been able to help their children stop bed wetting!
My first daughter used to bed wet and we didn't let her younger ones know, we often told her that her younger ones would be informed if she didn't learn to control her bladder or wake up to pee if she felt pressed.

We gave her a phone and set an alarm that went of every one hour thirty minutes, the phone also had a touch light to help her locate her way to the toilet in the dark. 
This method really helped her as she became more conscious of waking up to pee/ controlling her bladder.

There were days she peed on the bed, she surprisingly takes her bath eariler on such days, takes off her bed spread and night wear and washes them.

We(my hubby n i), didn't make too much fuss about it and I think too a large extent our helping her work through that phase in her life made it easy for her to stop.

I know it could be annoying to have a child bed wet but I plead that we don't loose our cool but find a way to help your child stop it.

Your child's happiness translates to him or her faring very well socially and academically.
If at age 9- 10 your child still hasn't stopped bed wetting it is advisable you seek medical advice.
Remember he or she might have inherited the traits from you and if you stooped bed wetting, he or she would too, it's just a matter of time.

Other ways you may wish to adopt are:
1. Encourage your child to take in more liquid in the day in order to pee more in the day and less liquid in the evening.

2. Avoid eating dinner to late.

3. Avoid watching or discussing matters that scare your child before bed time, it may play out as a night mare.

4. Make it a routine for you and your child to wake and pee at least twice before day break.

5. Ensure the room isn't too cold for your child.... if the weather is cold, ensure you have him or her wear warm pajamas and if possible leave the bed side lamp on..

6. Praise your child on progress made each day he or she doesn't not bed wet and bear with him or her when they do... call it an accident that you trust would not happen again.

6. Please and please don't discuss this with parents of their friends or teachers.... to avoid the obvious!

7 . You must love your child unconditionally and never compare him or her to their siblings or a friend's child.

Thank you for reading my view. Please feel free to share your view as many parents could learn a thing or two from you too.
Yours truly,

  Ezinne Adelaja

Reach for the stars....You have the ability to become great even in disability

Until you believe in yourself you won`t believe in your future” Anonymous.

“Start by doing what`s necessary; then do what`s possible; and suddenly, you are doing the impossible” Anonymous.

It is not uncommon to see some physically challenged individuals beg for alms from place to place or stationed at vantage points hoping that a “good Samaritan” will peradventure pass by and give them monetary assistance. However, truth be told, this phenomena is not the full picture. Some physically challenged persons have taken the bull by the horn to chart a noble cause for themselves and the society. This is true in many parts of the world.

This article draws inspiration and lessons from the life of seven ordinary yet enigmatic personalities who faced odds of monumental proportions but refused to throw in the towel. These persons were severely handicapped in one way or the other but refused to allow their circumstances determine their destinies. They made the quality decision to wither the storms, accomplishing phenomenal feats, their glaring challenges notwithstanding. It is my hope that the individuals whose accomplishments will be briefly considered will bring much encouragement to you irrespective of your current status in life.

Fanny Crosby: an American born March 24, 1820 and named Frances Jane Crosby. She died on February 12, 1915 at the ripe old age of ninety four. Fanny was blind for most of her life. She was a lifelong Methodist, one of the most prolific hymnists in history, writing over 8,000 hymns and gospel songs. She was a lyricist, poet and a mission worker. She displayed great musical talent in spite of her physical handicap, in her ability to play the piano, harp, guitar and organ.

Hellen Keller: an American born in June 27, 1880 and died on June 1st, 1968. She was the first deaf and blind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree in America. She was a notable author, political activist and a lecturer.

Joni Eareckson Tada: She was born on October 15, 1949. Joni is an evangelical Christian author, singer, artist, radio host and founder of Joni and Friends, an organization “accelerating Christian ministry in the disability community”. She became quadriplegic following an accident as a teenager. She has written over 40 books, recorded several musical albums and paints her artistic works with her teeth.

Esref Armagon: A blind painter from Turkey. Esref was born without eyes, and taught himself to read, write and even paint. He has been painting with oils for over thirty five years.

Farida Bedwei: A Ghanaian but born in Nigeria and growing up in Grenada and the United Kingdom, moved to Ghana with her family in the late 1980s. She developed cerebral palsy, a condition that makes full control of her body`s movements difficult, if not impossible. She however defied all the odds to become an author and one of the top software engineers in Ghana.

Stevie Wonder (Stevland Hardaway Morris): He was born on May 13th, 1950. He became blind shortly after birth. He is a musician, singer-song writer, record producer, multi-instrumentalist. As child prodigy, he has become one of the most creative and loved musical performers of the late 20th century. Stevie has recorded more than thirty United States top ten hits and received twenty two Grammy Awards, the most awarded male solo artiste, and has sold over 100 million albums and singles, making him one of the top 60 best selling music artiste.

Nick Vujicic: An Australian born on the 4th of December, 1982. He earned a double Bachelor`s degree in Accounting and Financial Planning from Griffith University. He is an Evangelist, Preacher, Motivational Speaker, and Director of “Life without Limbs”. He was born with tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare disorder characterized by the absence of all four limbs (He was born without arms and legs).

Trent Nelson | The Salt Lake Tribune
Motivational speaker Nick Vujicic speaks to students at Bryant Middle School and beyond about the dangers of bullying. The assembly was simulcast and streamed to some schools across Utah Thursday March 7, 2013 in Salt Lake City.

It is my firm conviction that if these physically challenged individuals refused to sink into the depths of despair and depression but made the quality decision to forge ahead in life, achieving seemingly impossible feats, then no one has the legitimate excuse to give up in life. Winning in life is an absolute possibility irrespective of one`s physical handicap, geographical location, family background or educational background. You were born to win. Greatness is resident within you. Dare to be a solution provider, a problem solver and a burden lifter. Yes, you can. Dare to dream big dreams and give it your best short. Before you know it that which you thought was impossible will become a reality in your life.

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Make time from your busy schedule for your children...

Our children appreciate the time you spend with them. The federal government of the federal republic of Nigeria has declared Friday 17th and Monday 20th as a public holiday. Make plans to give your self and your children a memorable treat.. ... I'm certain you wouldn't regret it * wink*

LIFE AND HOPE

I read this article and it got me thinking...... do we really care for our neighbors like the people in the story below do?

Late one spring night, my daughter Elizabeth woke us up with screams of “Fire! The house in on fire!” My wife and I got up and walked into the hallway, which was filled with smoke. We got our youngest son Erich from his bedroom and the four of us descended through the thick smoke and out of the house. But when we got there Elizabeth was missing. I was told that Elizabeth had gone back inside to get her cat. I went back into the house, calling her name, and went to her room. I couldn’t see anything so I felt around and kept calling out her name. She didn’t answer and I couldn’t find her. I had to crawl down the stairs and back out of the house. To my surprise, there she was with the others on the sidewalk. Still one missing!

Our oldest son had a bedroom on the first floor in the back of the house. I sent the family to our neighbor’s house and went to find him. I ran to the back of the house and to the outside of the missing son’s room screaming his name. I smashed out a window with my fist and tried to climb in, but the heat and smoke drove me back. I broke through another window, thinking that the smoke would go out the other window, and tried to climb in again but was driven back. All I could do was stand there screaming his name. At that time someone found me and told me that he had been at a friend’s house and was heading home. I then went to the front of the house and just stood looking, wanting to do something. A neighbor pulled me away and brought me to his house where I found my family being cared for. They were covered with soot and looked awful. An ambulance took us to the hospital and we were given oxygen. We were told that the Red Cross had arranged a motel room for us for the night, so we found our way there. We showered and didn’t sleep, but sat around trying to grasp what had happened.

The next morning at dawn, I went back to the house. One cat had died in the fire and one was unaccounted for. The house, garage, and the two cars that were parked next to the house were in ruins.

We spent the next two nights at one neighbor’s house. Another neighbor offered us the use of her house for following week, while her family went on vacation. After that we moved into a motel. We hunted for a local place to live so that the children could go to the same school and have the same neighborhood friends, but couldn’t find one.

Dear reader, this was a very tough time for us. Yours truly was at the end of his rope. I could see that the family desperately needed a place to settle down, but I couldn’t find a place to live. By chance, I remembered that a nearby church owned the vacant house next to it. One night as it was raining, I went to see the congregation of the church during their bible study night. I sat in the back to wait until they were done. They stopped their study and asked if I needed help. I said yes, but that I preferred to wait until they were done. When they were done, I asked who I should talk to about the house and was directed to the deacon. I presented my case and he said he would think about it. His wife was there and looked me in the eyes. After a short pause she said that we could live there. The deacon just looked at her and said, “I guess that’s it then”. They drove away and I started to walk back to my car. Suddenly, for no reason, my legs gave way and I dropped to my knees. I knelt there in the rain crying from relief. We moved in the next day.

The entire Town rallied to our side. People gave clothing, furniture and money. One man even gave us his car. I remember that when I thanked him that he said, “We’re all connected right?” The local school children collected cans to raise money for us, and the local stores had jars to gather donations. One neighbor arranged for a local television station to air our story and gather donations. Everyone gave.

About three weeks after the fire, I was driving through the village. A man was sitting in a stalled truck at the intersection, blocking traffic. I pulled over, and we pushed his truck off the road. I had jumper cables with me and we were able to start the truck. He told me that he was from another state and had just bought the truck and he was headed home. He pointed at a car that had pulled up near us, and I could see what I presumed were his wife and child waiting in it. They looked tired and hungry and so did he. He was concerned that the truck would stall out again. I gave him the jumper cables and told him that if he was ever in the neighborhood again, he could drop them off. He asked where he could drop them off. I pointed at my burned down house and said, “Well, I used to live there, but you can drop them at my neighbors house right there.” About a month later, my neighbor gave me those jumper cables back. She said that when the man dropped them off, he started crying. Apparently, he was overwhelmed by the fact that I would give him something after I had lost everything else.

Four weeks after the fire, I was where the burned house stood and was planning the new one. I was talking to my son, and started talking about the cats that we had lost. I was talking about one of the cats, mentioning him by name. This very same cat suddenly appeared out of nowhere and sheepishly came to us. He was very frightened. We brought him back to the family and he settled in with us.

We decided to put up a modular home where the old home had stood. A modular home is assembled in one day, the various parts of the house fit together like giant Lego pieces lifted into place by a crane onto a prepared foundation. The night before it was to be assembled, I received a call that my mother had passed away. I drove across the state to where she lived, just to be near where she had been. When I got back home, they had assembled the house, and my family took pictures of the event for me. After one month we were able to move in.

We lost a cat and all of our possessions in that fire. Some of them were precious. Family pictures, heirlooms, children’s keepsakes. But we saved the most important things; life and hope. If you have those, everything else will work out.

.... i honestly think we don't need to close down our accounts to help people in need, reaching out to people is a culture worth considering. Please bear in mind that we are all connected!

Yours truly,

Ezinne Adelaja.

BE INSPIRED

The place of birth is a lonely place. It is a place of pain and tears. It is always bloody and messy.

No wonder few people are allowed to come into such place, People who are experienced or close enough to go through the labour pain with you even in the midst of all the mess.

Do not be surprised when no one is there for you during the phase to giving birth to your dreams, but a multitude show up to be associated with you when you become successful.

It is normal that when a mother is in labour room she is left to pass through the pain only for the world to celebrate when the baby is born.

You do not need a crown to see you during your times of pains and struggle. They might discourage you into aborting your dreams.

All you need are real friends, mentors, pastors, coaches or destiny helpers who will serve as the doctor, midwives and nurses that will help you deliver your destiny safely.

BE INSPIRED....DON'T ABORT YOUR DREAMS.

Thanks Seun for this piece...... i'm certain it will minister to so many people..... young n old.

PATIENCE IS A MUST FOR ALL MOTHERS

God’s Word in Hebrews10:36says: For ye have need of patience, that after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise. Patience is a must! Instead of looking at the problem, challenge or situation, look into God’s Word, confess it to yourself and remind Him in prayers of His promises. If, for instance, you are looking for a baby, instead of mourning over doctor’s reports and getting unhappy about every monthly menstrual circle that comes, you can hold on to God’s Word; it never fails.
To overcome the darkness of barrenness, go for the light in God’s Word and keep declaring it until that barren situation changes. Light will always shine in darkness and darkness can never comprehend light (John 1:5).

Parents, educators, guidance..... please take note.

1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate
behaviour.
2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you have lost them.
3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined
them regularly in public.
5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is bcoz when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.
6. If your child is cowardly, it is bcoz you help them too quickly.
7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is bcoz instead of speaking to your child,
you order and command them.
8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is bcoz you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is bcoz you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.
10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is bcoz you are not
physically affectionate enough.
11. If your child is openly defiant, it is bcoz you openly threaten to do something but don't follow
through.
12. If your child is secretive, it is bcoz they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.
13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
14. If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is bcoz you are too quick to make decisions.
15. If your child rebels it is bcoz they know you care more about what others think than what is
right.

Let's make out time to bond with our children. This will make them gain our confidence and learn to a lasting friendship.

MOTHERHOOD....... never a dull moment

A lovely day to all mothers and mothers to be. You are most welcome to my blog. My desire is that we work together, learn from each on ways to raise our children and enjoy everyday as a mother.

Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servanthood. Every day women are called upon to selflessly meet the needs of their families. Whether they are awake at night nursing a baby, spending their time and money on less-than-grateful teenagers, or preparing meals, moms continuously put others before themselves.